Do you need help when making any major decision? I have often wondered when people are faced with decisions to make what do they do to come up with your own “way” of making that decision? Then when you make it and it doesn’t turn out the way you thought, does that change how you make decisions in the future or do you use the same process over and over again? And if it doesn’t turn out well do you somehow connect the outcome of that decision with your self esteem?
A very long time ago I was a PartyLite Consultant. I absolutely loved it. I got to stand up in front of everyone and tell them about a wonderful product that I knew they would love. I got to help them with their purchases so that the best product went home with them. I remember one of the highs of that time which sent me over the top in excitement making me feel like I was a very successful person.
I had heard through the grapevine that there was a woman that absolutely loved burning candles but she had left one lit in her house and it burnt down to the ground. This was some 5 years previous and they had rebuilt a brand new home in the same place. She left the house with a candle lit and didn’t expect the heater to kick on which made the curtains float over the candle and walla a big pile of dust was now her house.
I contacted her and asked her what kind of candle it was, told her about the ones that I was selling and asked if she wanted me to come by and show her my wares. The goal was to have a PartyLite show in her house and shower her with wonderful candles. To make a long story short, she said yes and yes. I felt on top of the world. Not only was having the show a success but she was able to get past her fear of burning candles ever again.
Here is where I come in and possibly you. Do you connect your successes with who you are? Do you feel like your successful if everything turns out right and a failure if things turn out wrong?
I always like to leave you with a challenge. Take up a notch your personal decision making skills and decide that the decisions that you make and how they turn out do not in any way or should they effect WHO you really are. They just don’t. Detach from the outcome and have a blast with the process. Do this for a week and then email me and tell me how it went. firstname.lastname@example.org.